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Thank you for sharing your story. After reading the article I couldn’t resist a Google search to learn more about you. Your experience is horrifying. Your immense smile (and seeming professional and personal happiness) is gratifying. Best to you!
Hi Dorri, I’m just a random 23-year old guy who read your article this morning. Reading it made me want to strangle those guys. To me (and I’m guessing to many other guys as well), it’s hard to fathom not getting immediate revenge and/or justice for rape. I suppose I will never fully understand. Thank you for sharing your experience as you (and not anonymously). After reading the article, I felt the strong desire to call up my girlfriend and remind her that I love her. I also plan on showing this article to my three younger sisters. Hopefully that guy’s wife found out.
I enjoyed reading your piece in the times today. You are very brave to share this story. I was similarly assaulted at the same age, though not so horrifically. I had a certain closure when I saw my assailant’s face on the cover of the Times 30 years later as one of the first killed in the Iraq war. I felt very guilty about being glad. Maybe it was also a little bit that I never got to have revenge.
Dorri, I just read your essay in the NYT. I am blown away by your courage to write about your experience. I think about some naive/stupid things I did as a 13-14 year old, and consider myself lucky that I wasn’t raped…And now am not sure how to share with my daughter tips on how to avoid situations like this, and to advocate on this subject. Much food for thought — thanks. And like a post further up, it’s great to see the smile here and on your FB page.
Thanks for sharing your story. It is indeed very sad to learn what someone did you many years ago and affected your life for ever. Having said this, your bravery in speaking aloud deserves a salute.
I’d just like to say that your opinion piece was very brave. Thank you for being so courageous – hopefully it will helps others who have been through what you went through!
Thank you for publishing your story. Rape is so common in our society, and so unacknowledged. People don’t understand what it does to kids, how permanent the damage is. I do, it ruined my ability to trust in relationships and, of course, I have PTSD. Only in my forties have a come to grips with what happened when I was a teenager. It certainly takes tremendous courage to speak out as you have. Thank you.
I’m sorry to hear about your trauma. Yeah, i had PTSD for a long time. I finally worked it out over my 30s and 40s in therapy. Finding a great man to spend my life with has helped so much too. But i don’t think I’d have been able to have the close relationship we have if I hadn’t worked hard in therapy to exorcise all the demons. Thanks for writing! All the best to you.
Your story struck such a chord. My youngest daughter was raped by three high school “friends” during a night of drinking three years ago. She only told us of this recently. Following the rape, several of the boys actually contacted her to “hook up” again. She has been suffering from PTSD and alcohol and drug abuse since then. Although she is in therapy, she has had difficulty talking about it, Recently she “defriended” these high school boys and her other “friends” who knowingly did nothing to stop it.